Life experiences taught me that singlehood is a complete season on its own and must be lived to its fullest. There is a grace, joy and opportunities in this phase which must be employed.
So, everybody around you is getting engaged! Every day you log onto facebook you find that YET another person is engaged! Although you’re happy for them, deep down– you’re thinking umm..ANOTHER PERSON?! UGH! WHEN IS MY TIME?!??! You go to church, pray, spend time with God, you’re living right but HOW is it that all of your unsaved co-workers are now engaged.. or all your friends are engaged, married.. having kids but you find yourself.. still single!!
I just want to encourage you today sis. First and foremost, you have got to stop comparing your life to another person. You’ve heard this before but I’m going to remind you that you’re a Christian. You have the Holy Spirit living on the inside of you. Do you know what that means to all of heaven??! You’ve been adopted, set apart, pulled aside, HIDDEN and PROTECTED under the care of CHRIST. Do you think He’s going to just let you run off and marry anybody??! Anybody can get a ring honey. You can walk outside and pick up at random anyone in pants off the street and make him marry you. Proverbs 24:1 says: Be not envious of evil men, nor desire to be with them. The WORST feeling in the world is for you to walk down the aisle to a man that you KNOW God didn’t tell you to marry! Yes, God is always speaking. He’s always with you. Are you listening?
Remember this….. Being SINGLE is more important than being married!!!
Singleness is more important than marriage because Marriage depends on singleness. Your marriage is only as good as your singleness. Appreciate yourself so much that you can be ready to share yourself with someone else when the time is right. You bring to the marriage what you are as a single, no more… no less.
Whatever you are as a single, that is what you create when joined with another person. So, it is more important that you bring the best to the relationship…. which means, you need to become the best before you bring your best.
Take care of yourself first. And when the time comes, you will be a promotion to your mate and not a demotion.
Each season in your life will develop to the next one. If you’re worrying non-stop about getting married, you’ll finally get married and then you’ll worry about kids. “Everybody is having kids and you don’t have any kids.” Then, you’ll finally get pregnant and then you’ll compare yourself to all of the other pregnant women and worry about your entire pregnancy. Then, kids will finally come and then you will compare your kids to everybody else’s child. Do you see how destructive this cycle is??! And remember, we’re Christians. Jesus is so clear to us when He tells us..
6 Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. 7 If you do this, you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.
Cheers from my Corner to Yours!!